Okay, so it’s the Saturday before mother’s day and here we are…having the conversation about what we should do, and what I “want” for Mother’s day. So, after posting on facebook for opinions on the matter, I decided to just be blunt. There seems to be two camps about planning for holidays, the camp that thinks that in order to honor someone one should plan activities, thoughts, words, actions, and gifts without the person of honor having to do the planning….and then there’s the camp of…tell me what you want to do and I’ll do it because I don’t want to be told what to do on my day.
I fall in the middle, and in truth I do indeed like it when folks take the initiative to plan something special. Even after 15 years of marriage (this fall), we’re still having this conversation…so I’ll make it easy this year.
What I want for Mother’s day.
I could say that I want things similar to a post I read
earlier this week- kids who grow up to be responsible, caring, productive, influences of society and those around them; kids
that grow up to give me grandbabies and who turn into great parents, friends
and professionals in the world around them.
That is ALL true. But let me make
it a little easier as the DAY of Mother’s DAY is tomorrow and it sounds like
you need something a little more immediate.
So here goes-
1-
I want to wake up in a clean house and go to bed
in a clean house.
2-
I want for my family to go to church and Sunday school
on time (dressed in outfits that do not require additional “conversation” about
their appropriateness.
3-
I want the opportunity to worship, hug necks,
and spend the morning growing as a family, community, and believers.
4-
I want to do something unique for lunch after
church. This could include a bagel at
the new shop, lunch with family, or a unique meal at home(in our clean house
that stays clean).
5-
I want cheap flowers. I don’t need expensive
flowers, but cheap flowers remind me all week that I’m someone special to
someone else. They make me happy. I don’t need expensive gifts, cheap flowers
and maybe a card or note from the kids would be nice.
6-
I want to do something unique after lunch. This could be going for a walk together
around the lake, sitting by the pool together, or if the weather isn’t nice going
to a movie together. Really anything
together. It could also mean working
together to finish the fort in the barn for the kids. Working together can actually be fun, and
checking things off my to-do list brings me happiness!
7-
I want a nice dinner that I don’t have to cook
or clean up after. Dinner with our
family circle(including local mothers)
would be nice if it can be worked in. If it’s in the budget, steak would be my first
choice since we’re fairly meat free during the week and I miss beef. It also goes well with red wine, of which I
would like to have a glass of. Mexican
would also be acceptable.
8-
I want for my children to learn that special
days are worth the effort as they are an opportunity to reflect on others and
their contribution in your own life. It’s
also an opportunity to serve others.
9-
I want patience….patience all around, and loving
words towards each other. I want lots of
meaningful hugs, even from my teenager.
I want for us to remember that life would be so much sadder and less
meaningful if any one member of our family was not a part of it. I want for our day and year to be filled with
the principles of our family theme scripture- Philippians 2.
10-
I want to go to bed (in a clean house), with
lots of hugs and kisses and a new reminder of what really matters my life: Faith, Love of Family, and Good Food and Wine…Motherhood.......
that’s all….what more could a mother want?
that’s all….what more could a mother want?
PS...Happy Mother's Day to my mom, moms in-law, and anyone else that is a mama in my world. Have a wonderful day filled with hugs, love...and a clean house. :)
Always growing, ever learning, much loving....
